Nobody is flawless. And that's ok - The Ultimate Guide to Imperfection & Weakness
Each and everyone of us struggles with something. We see our physical imperfections every time we take a look in the mirror. When we fail, we reflect on our imperfections instead of focusing on what we could have learned.
We see it as imperfection, because we constantly try to be perfect.
Aiming for perfection is like going toe-to-toe in a bare-knuckle fight with a much more experienced opponent. It will leave you beaten up, bruised and unmotivated.
Screw perfection! Striving constantly for perfection is ruining our lives! To be imperfect is the most natural thing to be, because we all are imperfect and we always will be.
Flaws make the person interesting
The word "imperfect" actually spells "I'm perfect". Everyone is perfect in their own imperfect ways. (Anonym)
Flaws are what makes a character realistic, interesting and attractive. Knowing people's faults leads to emotional responses in form of sympathy.
That's why we love superheros with flaws. Their flaws make them relatable, vulnerable and real.
Never ever be ashamed of your flaws. When we binge eat or drink too much alcohol, it's often because we're ashamed or don't know how to deal with our insecurities. Take ownership of it. We're all just human, you won't be judged.
Whatever happened in the past, don't let it hold you down! You have the capability to decide who you want to be in the next 5 minutes. When things get hard. When you want to quit. Those are the moments you need to fight through. I don't fucking care how many times you messed up. Skipped a workout. Binged on food. Own your flaws and don't be ashamed of them. Learn to love and accept them. Become your own biggest fan.
Stop being outraged and ask yourself, what you can do, to solve the problem.
We're all the same
We all carry our baggage. Some bigger ones than others, but at the end of the day, we all have to deal with something. We all felt broken once. We all were ashamed and felt guilty.
These situations taught us things that we wouldn't have learned without them. They make us unique. Always work through your shit and learn.
Your insecurities don't define you. Your actions and vibe do. Please, never get lost in feeling like a victim! You are the only one who puts yourself in that position. Even if it might not be your fault where your are right now. It's your responsibility to deal with it.
When flaws aren't really flaws
Never ever try to lose weight to meet society's impossible standard of beauty. You already are beautiful! Do it for a healthier lifestyle, do it for a better quality of life, do it to reach your full potential. Especially when it comes to physical appearance, your flaws might not actually be flaws.
Perfection is a myth. It doesn't exist in the real world and it certainly doesn't exist in human appearance. If you ask me, imperfections are much more attractive.
Magazine editors know, to make a sale, they only have to play with our doubts or create new ones, making us think we have "problems" that don't really exist. Every part of the body is picked apart and scrutinised, with most articles telling us outright which products we should buy to fix – or at least camouflage – our numerous "flaws".
In other words, you are not a failure for not having a thigh gap or a bigger biceps. We all struggle and suffer from self-doubt from time to time, but you should never let something as little as a "flaw" be the reason not to: smile, wear your favourite clothes or enjoy the day.
Stop letting the mirror, magazines or other peoples dumb comments dictate how you perceive yourself.
Why you should embrace your flaws
It lightens up your mood
Once you stop chasing an impossible beauty ideal, you can be truly and authentically yourself. You have more room to follow your purpose, without creating obstacles by yourself. You don't have to be "perfect", to be the best version of yourself.
Accepting who you are is liberating. Try it!
You start focusing on who you really are and not who you think you are not
One of the most important things I've learned when I let go of chasing perfection and unreachable beauty standards! Letting go of the idea of perfection, makes you discover who you really are.
Plus, when those inner battles finally stop, your self-image will be much more positive, which will also affect your overall health.
You'll open up to the imperfections of others
When you truly understand that imperfections and flaws are only human, you start to empathise with other's imperfections. You'll be much less inconvenient by the things others do and much less judgmental, because you can be true to yourself. It allows you to measure things with the right perspective.
Yes, I'm probably mildly chaotic, over-thinking, clumsy and very bad at jokes. But those are a few of the things, that make me lovely.
When you find yourself discouraged, because some things don't work out as planned, move on. After all, imperfect actions will always be better than no action at all.